Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself is an accessible, compassionate scientific answer for anyone who has ever wondered if they are genetically doomed to repeat their mistakes. Dr. Joe Dispenza uses scientific research to show anyone that they can reprogram their brain to better serve them. Real life examples and cutting edge science are woven together to help anyone to change their mind, about changing their mind.
My key Takeaways from “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One" by Dr. Joe Dispenza
Takeaway #1 Default Thinking
How many times have you thought 'there's something wrong with me'? How about 'my life sucks', 'no one ever listens to me', or 'I'm not clever enough' 'no one will ever want me'? These are habitual thoughts and you can change them so as to reinvent yourself and jump start your life, you just have to rewire your brain so that the default thinking is different.
Takeaway #2 Our Mind Creates Our Reality
You might be thinking no, it's not our mind that creates our reality, it's our circumstances but this is just another example of default thinking crippling us! As humans, we always seem to think that when we get x (more money, a partner, a different job, a bigger house etc) life will be better, we'll be happier but in reality, it doesn't work like that as we don't feel how we wanted to feel (or only for a short while) so then start chasing after something else that's supposedly bigger and better and sure to bring happiness this time around.
It's a never ending cycle unless you change your default way of thinking and realize where you direct your attention is where you place your energy. If you think you're unlucky, guess what?! You're going to be unlucky. If you worry that you won't have enough money, that's the reality you will create for yourself. If you think about it you can probably come up with recent real life examples... were you dreading a weekend away with the in-laws? Did they drive you insane? You were looking for reasons to support your belief that it would be a dreadful weekend. So change your thoughts and believe in yourself.
Takeaway #3 Mind Shapes Body
The brain can be separated into 3 functioning parts, the thinking part of the brain which is the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain that manages our emotions which is known as the limbic brain, and the part of the brain that manages our bodily functions and movements automatically aka our subconscious mind.
Scientists know there is a neurochemical relationship between the brain and the body with the brain producing neuropeptides that send a chemical signal to your body which triggers hormones that make you feel a certain way.
Our way of default thinking has usually been deeply embedded into us from childhood thanks to the limbic brain and the cerebellum memorizing emotions in order to quickly and efficiently connect our thought, feeling, and behavior patterns so that we react automatically when something happens or someone says something to us whether positive or negative. It's why we lash out at people, we know we're not being rational but because the brain is dishing out our behavior based on old thoughts and feelings we don't have time in that split second to alter our reaction.
Takeaway #4 Changing How You Feel
The 'trick' is to think greater than you feel which means engaging your prefrontal cortex so that you get yourself to think new thoughts rather than allowing the limbic brain and the cerebellum to dish up outdated thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Notice every time you say the words 'always', 'never', 'no one', and 'everyone', for example 'I never have enough money' or 'No one will ever love me'. These are default thought patterns that have become ingrained in you and they need to be changed as they're not true. When you notice yourself thinking or saying these universal quantifiers stop and find one contradiction –Think back to 1 time when you did have enough money, think of 1 person who does love you, even if the only person you can come up with is your Mom because it still means it's not everyone.
Changing your words changes your perception of your reality – Your happiness, your wealth, your success, and your life is all down to the thoughts you think.
Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself Chapters
Chapter One - The Quantum You
Chapter Two - Overcoming Your Environment
Chapter Three - Overcoming Your Body
Chapter Four - Overcoming Time
Chapter Five - Survival vs. Creation
Chapter Six - Three Brains: Thinking to Doing to Being
Chapter Seven - The Gap
Chapter Eight - Meditation, Demystifying the Mystical, and Waves of Your Future
Chapter Nine - The Meditative Process: Introduction and Preparation
Chapter Ten - Open the Door to Your Creative State (Week One)
Chapter Eleven - Prune Away the Habit of Being Yourself (Week Two)
Chapter Twelve - Create a New Mind for Your New Future (Week Four)
Chapter Thirteen - Demonstrating and Being Transparent: Living Your New Reality
Best Quotes from Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself
“Can you accept the notion that once you change your internal state, you don’t need the external world to provide you with a reason to feel joy, gratitude, appreciation, or any other elevated emotion?”
“A memory without the emotional charge is called wisdom.”
“We should never wait for science to give us permission to do the uncommon; if we do, then we are turning science into another religion.”
“To be empowered—to be free, to be unlimited, to be creative, to be genius, to be divine—that is who you are…. Once you feel this way, memorize this feeling; remember this feeling. This is who you really are….”
“If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit of being yourself, and reinvent a new self.”
“Meditating is also a means for you to move beyond your analytical mind so that you can access your subconscious mind. That’s crucial since the subconscious is where all your bad habits and behaviors that you want to change reside.”
“Warning: when feelings become the means of thinking, or if we cannot think greater than how we feel, we can never change. To change is to think greater than how we feel. To change is to act greater than the familiar feelings of the memorized self.”
“Psychologists tell us that by the time we’re in our mid-30s, our identity or personality will be completely formed. This means that for those of us over 35, we have memorized a select set of behaviors, attitudes, beliefs, emotional reactions, habits, skills, associative memories, conditioned responses, and perceptions that are now subconsciously programmed within us. Those programs are running us because the body has become the mind. This means that we will think the same thoughts, feel the same feelings, react in identical ways, behave in the same manner, believe the same dogmas, and perceive reality the same ways. About 95 percent of who we are by midlife1 is a series of subconscious programs that have become automatic—driving a car, brushing our teeth, overeating when we’re stressed, worrying about our future, judging our friends, complaining about our lives, blaming our parents, not believing in ourselves, and insisting on being chronically unhappy, just to name a few.”
“The latest research supports the notion that we have a natural ability to change the brain and body by thought alone so that it looks biologically like some future event has already happened. Because you can make thought more real than anything else, you can change who you are from brain cell to gene, given the right understanding.”
“Think of it this way: the input remains the same, so the output has to remain the same. How, then, can you ever create anything new?”
“So if we want to change some aspect of our reality, we have to think, feel, and act in new ways; we have to “be” different in terms of our responses to experiences. We have to “become” someone else. We have to create a new state of mind … we need to observe a new outcome with that new mind.”
“The point is, true happiness has nothing to do with pleasure because the reliance on feeling good from such intensely stimulating things only moves us further from real joy.”
―Dr. Joe Dispenza - Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One
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