Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself is an accessible, compassionate scientific answer for anyone who has ever wondered if they are genetically doomed to repeat their mistakes. Dr. Joe Dispenza uses scientific research to show anyone that they can reprogram their brain to better serve them. Real life examples and cutting edge science are woven together to help anyone to change their mind, about changing their mind.
My key Takeaways from “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One" by Dr. Joe Dispenza
Takeaway #1 Default Thinking
How many times have you thought 'there's something wrong with me'? How about 'my life sucks', 'no one ever listens to me', or 'I'm not clever enough' 'no one will ever want me'? These are habitual thoughts and you can change them so as to reinvent yourself and jump start your life, you just have to rewire your brain so that the default thinking is different.
Takeaway #2 Our Mind Creates Our Reality
You might be thinking no, it's not our mind that creates our reality, it's our circumstances but this is just another example of default thinking crippling us! As humans, we always seem to think that when we get x (more money, a partner, a different job, a bigger house etc) life will be better, we'll be happier but in reality, it doesn't work like that as we don't feel how we wanted to feel (or only for a short while) so then start chasing after something else that's supposedly bigger and better and sure to bring happiness this time around.
It's a never ending cycle unless you change your default way of thinking and realize where you direct your attention is where you place your energy. If you think you're unlucky, guess what?! You're going to be unlucky. If you worry that you won't have enough money, that's the reality you will create for yourself. If you think about it you can probably come up with recent real life examples... were you dreading a weekend away with the in-laws? Did they drive you insane? You were looking for reasons to support your belief that it would be a dreadful weekend. So change your thoughts and believe in yourself.
Takeaway #3 Mind Shapes Body
The brain can be separated into 3 functioning parts, the thinking part of the brain which is the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain that manages our emotions which is known as the limbic brain, and the part of the brain that manages our bodily functions and movements automatically aka our subconscious mind.
Scientists know there is a neurochemical relationship between the brain and the body with the brain producing neuropeptides that send a chemical signal to your body which triggers hormones that make you feel a certain way.
Our way of default thinking has usually been deeply embedded into us from childhood thanks to the limbic brain and the cerebellum memorizing emotions in order to quickly and efficiently connect our thought, feeling, and behavior patterns so that we react automatically when something happens or someone says something to us whether positive or negative. It's why we lash out at people, we know we're not being rational but because the brain is dishing out our behavior based on old thoughts and feelings we don't have time in that split second to alter our reaction.
Takeaway #4 Changing How You Feel
The 'trick' is to think greater than you feel which means engaging your prefrontal cortex so that you get yourself to think new thoughts rather than allowing the limbic brain and the cerebellum to dish up outdated thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Notice every time you say the words 'always', 'never', 'no one', and 'everyone', for example 'I never have enough money' or 'No one will ever love me'. These are default thought patterns that have become ingrained in you and they need to be changed as they're not true. When you notice yourself thinking or saying these universal quantifiers stop and find one contradiction –Think back to 1 time when you did have enough money, think of 1 person who does love you, even if the only person you can come up with is your Mom because it still means it's not everyone.
Changing your words changes your perception of your reality – Your happiness, your wealth, your success, and your life is all down to the thoughts you think.