This New York Times Bestseller demonstrates how to dig deep to learn new habits, ditch self limiting beliefs so anyone can transcend their own limits. Readers will be inspired to break down their own barriers to success, welcome more love and happiness into their lives by gaining a better understanding of the roadblocks within their own psychology.
My key Takeaways from “The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level" by Gay Hendricks
Takeaway #1 Are You Prepared To Live a Happy Life?
Seems like a silly question doesn't it, who wouldn't want a happy life? But every one of us has a resistance to happiness.
Despite spending a lot of time trying to make ourselves happy, we're not very skilled at it and struggle with feeling good or at peace for long periods of time. Even the most successful people are rarely happy, always striving for more. Of course, life is never going to be plain sailing, the darkest moments cannot be avoided but most of our unhappiness comes unnecessarily from within us.
The reason for resisting happiness? Fear. Fear of reaching our full potential to be more exact for when you become the best you can, you cannot hide behind excuses for not making your dreams come true, for not being happy.
Takeaway #2 Finding Your Passion & Following It
What are the activities you do that you love so much that you get into 'the zone of genius' and lose track of time? It's likely that your job doesn't have this effect on you but it should – Stop playing small, stop using your job as an excuse to not be happy, and do something that fills you with joy. If you have no idea what that might be at this time note those moments of clarity, peace and happiness and keep doing them, the path will become clearer.
A success mantra will help you keep on the path of success and happiness. Memorize and say “I expand in abundance, success, and love every day, as I inspire those around me to do the same” several times a day. You should also practice saying enlightened no's – These are said after asking yourself 'does this opportunity align with my zone of genius?' to ensure you don't get distracted away from your goal and ultimate happiness.
Takeaway #3 There's No Limit To Your Happiness
You must stop self-sabotaging and realize that there is no limit to your happiness.
Think about those hopes and dreams you don't tell anyone about because you think they're out of reach and impractical. Think about those times of happiness that then take a downward spiral, were you thinking thoughts like 'This can't last' 'This is too good to be true' or 'When will my good luck end?' You might self-sabotage a relationship when your finances are going great or vice versa, making a risky investment to ruin your finances because you're so happily in love.
Most often we can recognize this upper-limit mindset and subsequently nip it in the bud when we see worry popping into our mind. Find the source of the worry and ask yourself if you can control the issue at hand. If you can't control it, stop worrying about it! If you can control it, take action. If you don't take action on a problem that you can control it will grow bigger and bigger causing more unhappiness down the line so deal with it now.