“You Are a Badass” is the much needed kick in the pants for anyone who is unsure of how to reach their highest potential. Bestselling author and world-traveling success coach, Jen Sincero invents a genre of her own within self help. Readers will laugh their way through this book as Sicero uses her signature tough love, potty mouth humor to push the reader to examine the thought patterns holding them back in life.
My key Takeaways from “You Are a Badass" by Jen Sincero:
Takeaway #1 Live For Yourself, Not Others
How did you choose what you studied at college? How did you choose your current job? Why don't you spend all of your time doing the things that you love? Your answers highlight the fact that many of our choices in life are based on what others tell or recommend us to do, want us to do, or that we do to make others happy - what we actually want for ourselves very rarely enters into the equation but it's time to end this cycle and become badass, living life on your terms.
Takeaway #2 Negative Thoughts Hold You Back
What you believe about yourself is usually based on the messages you heard when you were a child such as 'people like us don't achieve great things', 'we're not rich people', or 'you'll never become anything'. Those messages became lodged in your subconscious mind over time and, because a small part of you thinks it's true, you remain in a 'Big Snooze' and don't pursue the things that could lead to your success. The 'Big Snooze' is like an overprotective parent that doesn't want you to leave the house and explore the world because they're fearful for you but thankfully, no matter your age you can wake up from what is holding you back.
Takeaway #3 Love Yourself
Stop comparing yourself to other people and start loving yourself. You can do this by creating your own mantras and repeating them to yourself as much as possible whether you're in the shower, driving to work, or waiting in a queue, things like 'I am beautiful', and 'I am capable of anything I set my mind to'. When you love yourself a bit more you'll be less afraid to do the things you truly want to do and care less about what people think of you which will give you the power to take life into your own hands.
Takeaway #4 Tap Into The Limitless Source of Power
Whether you're religious or not most people believe in some sort of higher power. This energy is everywhere but it vibrates at different frequencies – you're one frequency and the things you want are there own frequency too with the same frequencies attracting each other which is why we have the saying 'like attracts like'. When we're feeling down we are vibrating at a lower frequency which can draw more negative energy towards us resulting in a series of crises. However, you can learn to raise your frequency therefore attracting more good things into your life through the Law of Attraction and a daily meditation practice.
Takeaway #5 Take Action!
To overcome hesitation you need to stop judging others, to overcome excuses you need to be clear about your goal - if you find that your resolve is weak you may need to adjust your goal, ask yourself some tough questions about what you really want – when you find that thing that you truly want, you'll be able to overcome procrastination, hesitation, and fear head on through taking action combined with positive thinking.
Takeaway #6 Don't Give Up!
Often times people won't succeed because they give up too soon. Never quit, even after rejection. Learn from your mistakes and keep pushing forward ensuring you have solid routines in place, a strong circle of supportive friends, and the right environment for you to succeed. If you realize that your friends are holding you back, make new ones. If you realize that you live in the wrong area, move. Don't let anyone or anything distract you from creating a life you love.
You Are a Badass Chapters
Chapter One - My Subconscious Mae Me Do It
Chapter Two - The G-Word
Chapter Three - Present as a Pigeon
Chapter Four - The Big Snooze
Chapter Five - Self-Perception Is a Zoo
Chapter Six - Love the One You Is
Chapter Seven - I Know You Are But What Am I?
Chapter Eight - What Are You Doing Here?
Chapter Nine - Loincloth Man
Chapter Ten - Meditation 101
Chapter Eleven - Your Brain Is You Bitch
Chapter Twelve - Lead with Your Crotch
Chapter Thirteen - Give and Let Give
Chapter Fourteen - Gratitude: The Gateway Drug to Awesomeness
Chapter Fifteen - Forgive or Fester
Chapter Sixteen - Loosen Your Bone, Wilma
Chapter Seventeen - It's So Easy Once You Figure Out It Isn't Hard
Chapter Eighteen - Procrastination, Perfection, and a Polish Beer Garden
Chapter Nineteen - The Drama of Overwhelm
Chapter Twenty - Fear Is for Suckers
Chapter Twenty-One - Millions Mirrors
Chapter Twenty-Two - The Sweet Life
Chapter Twenty-Three - The Almighty Decision
Chapter Twenty-Four - Money, Your New Best Friend
Chapter Twenty-Five - Beam Me Up, Scotty
Best Quotes from You Are a Badass
“If you’re serious about changing your life, you’ll find a way. If you’re not, you’ll find an excuse.”
“You are responsible for what you say and do. You are not responsible for whether or not people freak out about it.”
“You are perfect. To think anything less is as pointless as a river thinking that it’s got too many curves or that it moves too slowly or that its rapids are too rapid. Says who? You’re on a journey with no defined beginning, middle or end. There are no wrong twists and turns. There is just being. And your job is to be as you as you can be. This is why you’re here. To shy away from who you truly are would leave the world you-less. You are the only you there is and ever will be. I repeat, you are the only you there is and ever will be. Do not deny the world its one and only chance to bask in your brilliance.”
“You are loved. Massively. Ferociously. Unconditionally. The Universe is totally freaking out about how awesome you are. It’s got you wrapped in a warm gorilla hug of adoration. It wants to give you everything you desire. It wants you to be happy. It wants you to see what it sees in you.”
“What other people think about you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.”
“Because if you base your self-worth on what everyone else thinks of you, you hand all your power over to other people and become dependent on a source outside of yourself for validation. Then you wind up chasing after something you have no control over, and should that something suddenly place its focus somewhere else, or change its mind and decide you’re no longer very interesting, you end up with a full-blown identity crisis.”
“There’s nothing as unstoppable as a freight train full of fuck-yeah.”
“It never ceases to amaze me the precious time we spend chasing the squirrels around our brains, playing out our dramas, worrying about unwanted facial hair, seeking adoration, justifying our actions, complaining about slow Internet connections, dissecting the lives of idiots, when we are sitting in the middle of a full-blown miracle that is happening right here, right now.
We're on a planet that somehow knows how to rotate on its axis and follow a defined path while it hurtles through space! Our hearts beat! We can see it! We have love, laughter, language, living rooms, computers, compassion, cars, fire, fingernails, flowers, music, medicine, mountains, muffins!”
“Imagine what our world would be like if everyone loved themselves so much that they weren’t threatened by other people’s opinions or skin colors or sexual preferences or talents or education or possessions or lack of possessions or religious beliefs or customs or their general tendency to just be whoever the hell they are.”
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
“So often, we pretend we’ve made a decision when what we’ve really done is signed up to try until it gets too uncomfortable.”
“Never apologize for who you are. It lets the whole world down.”
― Jen Sincero - You Are a Badass
Editor and Founder
Tal Gur is a location independent entrepreneur, author, and impact investor. After trading his daily grind for a life of his own daring design, he spent a decade pursuing 100 major life goals around the globe. His most recent book and bestseller, The Art of Fully Living - 1 Man, 10 Years, 100 Life Goals Around the World, has set the stage for his new mission: elevating the next generation of leaders to their true potential.